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Lola Lavender Activity #2

Mum! I'm feeling anxious!

As mums, seeing our children anxious can be very worrying. I hope to explain what anxiety can look like as well as suggest some very simple ways how Lola Lavender can help. Lavender is the champion essential oil for anxiety!

Research shows that within 3 minutes of smelling lavender, participants:

  • had increased beta waves in EEG

  • felt significantly more relaxed

  • had decreased anxiety scores

  • reported improved mood

Anxiety can be manifested in several ways. Here are some typical signs.

1. Sleeping and eating become a battle

Is your child scared to sleep on their own? Do they want you to check on them often? Do they wind up in your bed most nights? Do they take forever to go to sleep? These are common signs of anxiety in children.

2. You hear constant complaints about your child not feeling well

Anxiety impacts the mind and body. It has direct access to your child's digestive tract, your children's heart rate, your child's bowel movements (or lack thereof), and so much more! When you start to see these physical complaints before school, bedtime, or other activities, you want to pay attention to those patterns. Often, when anxiety shows up, so do the physical complaints. It’s always good to rule out any medical origin first, but when the doctors are left scratching their head, you want to expand your search to possible anxiety-related causes as well. When I used to work in a children's hospital we would have an influx of children treated for stomach problems around exam time which was nearly always down to stress and anxiety.

3. Your child gives you a hard time about going to school

Many children don’t like going to school, but some anxious kids will have sheer panic about going. School brings with it many anxiety triggers. Often anxious kids feel sick, and with that comes the fear they might throw up in front of others. They can also worry about separating from their parent, often the mum. The idea of separating can make them feel sick to their stomach, which fuels more anxiety. It is a vicious cycle.

4. Children can also worry about perfectionism, grades, angry teachers, judgmental peers, and germs – just to name a few school-related anxiety themes. 

5. Your child wants to avoid things

Anxiety’s favourite fuel is avoidance. The more a child avoids, the bigger the anxiety grows.

The more the anxiety grows, the more the child avoids. It is a perpetual cycle.

If you see your child refusing to do something that they used to do, you want to explore what is going on. Some children want to avoid being in social situations, being around crowds, going to school, going to restaurants, starting something new (like a new class or team) or just about anything else! If you see your child avoiding places or situations, you might want to do some further digging to find out the core reason behind the avoidance. Children will often give parents throw away answers like, “it’s boring” or “it’s dumb!” But don’t always take those answers at face value. Keep digging, just to be sure you aren’t missing something.

6. Your child doesn’t want to do anything independently

The last common sign of anxiety is a lack of independence. When this is an issue, you’ll have a shadow. Wherever you go, your child doesn’t seem too far behind. Sometimes parents don’t notice this at first. But when you start to pay attention, you start to realise that wherever you are, so is your child. Your child might also demand that you or someone else come with them when they have to do something. If they have to go upstairs, you hear, “Can you come with me?”

I'd like to share some very practical tips that you can incorporate with your children to help support them if they are feeling anxious. Please see a medical professional if the symptoms are severe.

When your child smells Lavender, the molecules from the essential oil drops travel up the olfactory nerve to the limbic system of the brain which is responsible for our mood and behaviour. The molecules get into the receptor sites, the nerve cells in the brain which sends messages to calm down the body. The body can calm down within 20 seconds!

Ways to use Lavender

Diffuse it - add a few drops of lavender and some water to the diffuser

  • diffuse 20 minutes before bedtime

  • diffuse 20 minutes before the children wake up

  • diffuse when coming home from school or before an activity where your child could feel anxious

  • diffuse whilst journaling as the child processes their feelings and emotions

Inhale it:

  • Smell directly from the roller bottle - you can smell as many times as needed, you can never overdose on smelling the oils!

  • Roll the roller bottle over the label of a teddy or some part of the teddy for the child to smell

  • Roll a drop over a lava bracelet

  • Add a drop to a cotton ball for the child to hold and smell whenever needed

Roll it on:

  • roll on wrists

  • roll it on the bottoms of your feet

  • massage it onto the bottoms of your feet

  • roll it around the tummy

Play with it - for your 10 minute activity this week learning about Lola Lavender, try one of the following:

  • add a drop to a ball of play dough

  • add a drop to a rice or pasta play tray

  • add a drop to a stress ball to stimulate the nerves and muscles and improve the overall nervous system which reduces cortisol, the main stress hormone

  • take two pieces of paper. Label one of them as ’Happy Brain’ and the other as ’Worry Brain.’ Now let your child fill them in with the thoughts or feelings that might fit into each category such as humour, fear, excitement, etc.

  • Ask your child to look around their surroundings and search for five things they can touch, four things they can see, three things they can hear, two things they can smell, and one thing they can taste. This will help them distract their minds from the anxiety and also make them feel better.

  • get your child to role play using Lola Lavender on their doll/toy before occasions that might cause them stress and anxiety to prepare them for using the oil on themselves e.g. going to the doctor's, a dentist appointment, starting a new school year, participating in a school play etc.

Here is an example of Ella using Lola Lavender to prepare her for going to the dentist.


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